Abantu abaphumelele bayazi ukuthi ukuze uhwebelane kahle nomuntu, kumele babuze imibuzo. Lokhu kubuye kusize ukugwema ukunga qondani noma ninga zwisisani ngenkulumo.
#AwushoKe uke uzizwe kanjani nje uma uzikhiphile nomuntu kepha engaku buzi ngisho owodwa umbuzo?
Uma ungasiye umuntu okhathalele ukubuza, usuke uzitshela ukuthi uyazi konke okumele ukwazi. Ngoku buza umbuzo onesigqi ukhuthaza inkulumo ezwakalayo.
Kubalulekile ukuthi unga hlambekiseli, ngoba ikona lokho okuzolawula inkulumo; eqinisweni, uma wenza kanje usuke uqinisa ikhanda nje. Buza ngesihle futhi ubuzele ukucaciseleka ngalokhu oku buzayo ngoba kuzo letha lenkulumo oyilindele.
Sebenzisa lemibuzo elandelayo:
* kunga njani uma kungaba kanje naka nje?
* kungani lokhu kubalulekile kuwe?
* lokho kwenzeka kuphi?
* kuzo kwenzeka nini lokho?
* enganjani ubani nobani?
Abantu abaphumelele bayawa lola amandla abo okuhlaziya izinto bese bezi qeqesha ukulalela, baqhelise konke lokhu abaku solayo naba cabanga ukuthi kuyikho.
Bayazi ukuthi ukuhlambekisela kunga holela ekumoshekeni kobu dlelwano, imisebenzi enga fezekile, incindezi yoku hlezi ucabanga izinkinga nosizi kanye nayo yonke imiphumela emibi, ndawo zonke empilweni kanye nase msebenzini.
Kukho konke okwenzekayo: kubalulekile ukuthi ungavumeli noma ubani akukhohlise ekwenzeni okuthile okuzo kumoshela isikhathi. Uma abanye abantu bezo khuluma umbhedo noma baziphathe ngendlela ebaholela ophathe, badedele.
Asikho isidingo sokuthi nawe ubalandele uzimoshele esakho isikhathi; unga lawulwa amandla akho, uziphathise okomuntu osekhulile ngoku cabanga, bese uthemba unembeza wakho bese ungazi bukeli phansi.
Thatha amashansi ngokwenza lokhu okubona kulungele wena ngoba ngeke ulindele impilo eqinisekisiwe- uzogcina ngoku linda impilo yakho yonke. Uma kwenzeka izinto zinga lungi, uzofunda emaphutheni akho.
Bazibe labo abazothi 'ngiku tshelile' bese ungamela izinqumo zakho, ukuze uzokwazi ukukhulisa izihluzu zakho zesibindi.
BUZA!!!
#AwushoKe uke uzizwe kanjani nje uma uzikhiphile nomuntu kepha engaku buzi ngisho owodwa umbuzo?
Uma ungasiye umuntu okhathalele ukubuza, usuke uzitshela ukuthi uyazi konke okumele ukwazi. Ngoku buza umbuzo onesigqi ukhuthaza inkulumo ezwakalayo.
Kubalulekile ukuthi unga hlambekiseli, ngoba ikona lokho okuzolawula inkulumo; eqinisweni, uma wenza kanje usuke uqinisa ikhanda nje. Buza ngesihle futhi ubuzele ukucaciseleka ngalokhu oku buzayo ngoba kuzo letha lenkulumo oyilindele.
Sebenzisa lemibuzo elandelayo:
* kunga njani uma kungaba kanje naka nje?
* kungani lokhu kubalulekile kuwe?
* lokho kwenzeka kuphi?
* kuzo kwenzeka nini lokho?
* enganjani ubani nobani?
Abantu abaphumelele bayawa lola amandla abo okuhlaziya izinto bese bezi qeqesha ukulalela, baqhelise konke lokhu abaku solayo naba cabanga ukuthi kuyikho.
Bayazi ukuthi ukuhlambekisela kunga holela ekumoshekeni kobu dlelwano, imisebenzi enga fezekile, incindezi yoku hlezi ucabanga izinkinga nosizi kanye nayo yonke imiphumela emibi, ndawo zonke empilweni kanye nase msebenzini.
Kukho konke okwenzekayo: kubalulekile ukuthi ungavumeli noma ubani akukhohlise ekwenzeni okuthile okuzo kumoshela isikhathi. Uma abanye abantu bezo khuluma umbhedo noma baziphathe ngendlela ebaholela ophathe, badedele.
Asikho isidingo sokuthi nawe ubalandele uzimoshele esakho isikhathi; unga lawulwa amandla akho, uziphathise okomuntu osekhulile ngoku cabanga, bese uthemba unembeza wakho bese ungazi bukeli phansi.
Thatha amashansi ngokwenza lokhu okubona kulungele wena ngoba ngeke ulindele impilo eqinisekisiwe- uzogcina ngoku linda impilo yakho yonke. Uma kwenzeka izinto zinga lungi, uzofunda emaphutheni akho.
Bazibe labo abazothi 'ngiku tshelile' bese ungamela izinqumo zakho, ukuze uzokwazi ukukhulisa izihluzu zakho zesibindi.
BUZA!!!
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